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Couples rarely run out of love. They run out of things to ask. Conversation narrows to logistics — what’s for dinner, who’s picking up what, did anyone call the plumber — and the questions that once kept you both awake quietly disappear.

This is the widest collection in DeepJoin and the one to open when you don’t know what you want to talk about. It ranges across everything: childhood and family, the small things that make your partner feel loved, moments of doubt neither of you named out loud, where you each expect to be in ten years, and the occasional would-you-rather that exists purely to make one of you laugh.

Use it the way it was built. One question at a time, read aloud, no hurry to move on. The good part usually arrives after the first answer, when the follow-up is yours rather than ours. If a question lands badly, skip it — an unwanted question is not worth defending.

It works at three months and at thirty years. Newer couples find out things they wouldn’t have thought to ask. Couples who have been together a long time find out what has quietly changed since the last time anyone asked.

This week’s picks

Three of the collection’s highest-rated questions, by votes and saves from people using the app. The three shown change every Monday.

  • 01

    Is it important to you that your partner praises you?

  • 02

    Which shared memory always makes you smile?

  • 03

    Is there a small thing I do that you especially like?

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The full list

Ranked by how people using the app voted on them.

  1. How can we strengthen the trust between us?

  2. Do you have habits you want to change, and why?

  3. If we could star in a movie, which genre would you choose?

  4. How would you describe me to a stranger?

  5. What is your biggest fear in a relationship?

  6. How can I make you feel good?

  7. What was your first impression of me on our first date?

  8. What about me surprised you the most when we first met?

  9. What do you consider your greatest victory and your greatest mistake?

  10. What compliment do you think I should hear more often?

  11. What is my biggest fear?

  12. What are your core life values, and do you feel like you live according to them?

  13. What do you think we could learn from each other?

  14. What’s your favorite place to spend time together and why?

  15. What role does love play in your life?

  16. Are you a jealous person? Do you think jealousy is a sign of mistrust?

  17. If you’re feeling sad, do you need someone to cheer you up, listen to you, or give you space?

  18. Share your craziest sexual fantasy.

  19. Are rituals in a relationship, like evening café visits or morning coffee, important to you?

  20. What is my secret weakness?

  21. What kind of gifts do you like the most?

  22. How can we improve our emotional intimacy?

  23. Name five things in which we are most alike.

  24. Are there topics in our relationship that you consider “off-limits”?

  25. Can someone be in a relationship and still feel lonely?

  26. How do you think we can help each other grow personally?

  27. What destroys love in most cases? Name the top 3 reasons relationships end, in your opinion.

  28. What do I do that makes you laugh the hardest?

  29. What sexual fantasy of yours have you never shared with me?

  30. What characteristics do you admire most in others?

  31. Can I rely on you?

  32. What’s your best memory of your intimate life?

  33. Name 3 things you’d like to change about your partner’s character.

  34. What’s your favorite shared activity? Name your top 5.

  35. How do you feel about the idea of eternal youth? Would you want to stay young forever?

  36. Are there topics in our relationship that you want to discuss but don’t know how to bring up? How can I help?

  37. Do you feel like our relationship is balanced in terms of give and take?

  38. What is your favorite part of me?

  39. What's a moment you wished we never had?

  40. What would a day of completely spoiling me look like?

  41. Have there been times when you felt the need to hide your true feelings from me? Why?

  42. Do we have shared dreams that we should strive to achieve?

  43. Are you ready to change for the sake of a relationship?

  44. Recall the most romantic moment in our relationship.

  45. Imagine your perfect day with me—what would we do, and where would we be?

  46. What do you remember most about our first date?

  47. If you could be good at something that you're not good at now what would you choose?

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