🧐 Red Flag Game Questions

How to play

The rules fit in one paragraph, which is why nobody has to explain them twice.

• Someone reads a situation out loud. Everyone else answers in one word: red flag, or not. No qualifications, no “well, it depends”.
• Once everyone has answered, you explain. Whoever ended up in the minority goes first.
• One follow-up question each, per situation. This is a game, not a cross-examination.
• Anything can be skipped. A skip is an answer, not a forfeit — there are no points here.
• The game is over when you stop playing and start talking about yourselves. That is not a failure, that is the point.

Playing as a couple

With two people it moves faster and cuts closer: there is nobody else’s opinion to hide behind.

• Take turns reading. Whoever reads answers last.
• Answer at the same time, out loud, on a count of three. Otherwise the second person edits their answer to match the first and the game stops working.
• Talk about the situation before you talk about the two of you. Open with “we did that once” and the evening turns into a discussion of your relationship inside five minutes.
• Agree up front that nothing said in the game gets used in an argument next week. Without that, nobody answers honestly.

Playing in a group

This is the only DeepJoin collection that works for more than two people. Three to eight is the comfortable range.

• Vote at once: thumb up for fine, thumb down for red flag. Nobody copies their neighbour that way.
• Stay on the situations that split the room roughly in half. Move through the unanimous ones quickly.
• You do not need a host. Whoever’s turn it is reads, then it passes around the circle.
• In a mixed group of couples and single people, do not aim a situation at a particular relationship in the room. That is exactly when the game turns into a trial.
• If someone goes quiet for two rounds, stop. It usually means a question landed, not that they are bored.

The 18+ questions, and when to skip them

The collection covers sex, jealousy, bodies and money. It is not an erotic set — DeepJoin has a separate collection for that — but it is not a game for an evening with your parents either.

The 18+ label here is not about being explicit for its own sake. It is about answers you cannot un-hear.

• Agree at the start which topics are off the table tonight. One sentence up front saves an hour of awkward silence.
• With people you barely know, skip everything about sex and money. What is left will still fill an evening.
• Nobody owes an explanation for a skip. “Come on, why?” is the fastest way to make the next honest answer impossible.