First Date Questions
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A first date has roughly two hours and one job: work out whether you want a second one. The standard questions don’t help with that. Where you work and where you grew up are facts, and facts are what you already read on a profile.
The questions here go one layer past that without getting heavy. What matters more — career, family, or doing your own thing. Whether success means anything specific to you or is just a word. What harmony in a life would actually look like. The small thing you take an unreasonable amount of pleasure in. Whether other people’s opinion of you carries weight. Whether you’d start over in a new city tomorrow.
They’re answerable in three minutes and they usually produce a story rather than a fact, which is the point — you’re trying to learn how someone thinks, not what they’ve done.
Keep it a conversation. Ask one, answer it yourself, let it wander, and only reach for another when the last one runs out. Four across an evening is plenty. Once you’re past the first few dates, DeepJoin’s new relationships collection picks up where this one stops.
This week’s picks
Three of the collection’s highest-rated questions, by votes and saves from people using the app. The three shown change every Monday.
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How do you feel about hugs and physical touch – is it important to you in a relationship?
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What life experience made you go: 'I can't believe this is happening right now!'?
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What is more important to you – following your dream or choosing a safe path?
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The full list
Ranked by how people using the app voted on them.
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If someone gave you a box containing everything you've ever lost, what would be the first thing you'd look for?
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Are romantic gestures important to you? If so, which ones mean the most?
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Are you ready to change for the sake of a relationship?
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What childhood dream still seems exciting to you?
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What is your very first memory?
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What is your biggest strength?
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What's your top priority in life right now?
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Share something not a lot of people know about you.
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What has been your longest friendship so far?
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How do you feel about discussing emotions in a relationship?
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Do you believe that it is important to openly talk about your fears and worries?
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Do you think it’s possible to find the perfect balance between career and personal life?
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What makes you feel powerful?
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How do you define the right balance between work and personal life?
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How do you feel about traditions and family values?
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Do you have an idea of "perfect" relationships? What are they like?
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Do you believe that people can change, or does their character remain the same?
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If you had the chance to change something in your life, what would you change?
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What's a small thing you take a stupid amount of pleasure in?
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Where do you find inspiration?
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What little things can make you happy in a relationship?
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Is marriage important to you?
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What's a BIG no-no when it comes to a first date?
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Name 3 things you are grateful for.
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What is the greatest sign of trust in a couple for you?
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What do you think is essential for harmonious relationships between people?
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